I am 31 years old and about to be 32 and by Indian standards I should have been married by now. It's not that I did not have my share of boyfriends or crushes. But sometimes I wonder how the older generation made relationships work. The older generation never had Internet or cell phone but still had better understanding, patience and maturity for relationships.
People of my generation would rather give up than work on a relationship for to make it successful. My parents have been married for more than 25 years and for most of their married life, my dad was posted in another city. I used to wonder how they made it work. It's not that they did not have problems but they never let the arguments or disagreements go to the next day.
Also it was all about the commitment my parents made to each other. They never went to sleep without talking for at least 10 mins each day. In today’s world in spite of having the best of technology, people don't talk about their feelings, disagreements or simply the thought saying I miss you or I love you.
I feel we have taken relationships for granted. Some people ask me why should I say I love you. She or he knows but the question isn't whether she or he knows it. It's just about saying it. Where have the days gone when going for a walk holding hands or having pani puri on the roadside together was considered romantic. People of this generation are all about showing off. Whether it's a date or wedding. I feel people fail to make relationships work because they never set up expectations when they get into one. Wouldn't it be better if we tell each other what we expect from the other person clearly.
My suggestion to this generation is just express your feelings, disagreements or our expectations from each other. This would save a lot of time and effort which would be good for your relationships.
10 comments:
kinda late to realize that u took relations for granted
In our generation everyone takes everybody for granted. I am not aa perfect person so yes I might have taken some people for granted.
Nicely written, I understood... Lol
Thanks Syed.. :-)
Thanks Syed.. :-)
Good phrasing!
All we need is to be remain romatic in our hearts; somehting that we are beginning to forget due to our lifestyle. Everything will be just fine then! :)
Aacha laga after reading this article, but one thing is sure whtever the generation will be most important is a relationship will strong when they have proper understanding on each other
Good Shilpa.!
Well... it's pretty much subjective. Some work when both put efforts. Some don't if one is constantly putting efforts & then they decide to give up because their partner won't. Some even get married to the love of their life & they change after that. Mostly when they stop doing things they did to get in to the relation when in the relation. What you rightly mentioned is men have evolved & on the contrary women some times are not acting right. & like I said. It's subjective. However to make anything work, it's importance needs to be treasured. Valuing each other. But if one person loses it, their is no point to struggle. Things can get better if we know where we wanna be. That's all I'm saying...
Nice. Last sentence of second last para - ekdum mast :-)
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