After the last post I wrote about single people struggling to get married, this one is about how we let our fears ruin what could be a good relationship.
Since I moved back home, I've been meeting people in search for love. There has been good and bad experiences. The bad ones are learnings, let's not be negative about it.
A lot of single people ask me why should they get into a committed relationship when they can have fun without it and it is too much of an effort to maintain a relationship. I have met people who have been hurt by others and don't want to get hurt. In both the cases, it's the fear of finding someone who you would depend on emotionally, mentally and physically. And there are others who let that fear affect them so much that they ignore when they meet an amazing person. Maybe because they think the person is fake and will hurt them, or scared that they'd fall for them.
I have had experiences where I have been completely honest about what are my expectations from a relationship or the person. However, then realized that it scares people when you are so honest.Most of the relationships or marriage breaks because we aren't honest to each other about our expectations. Things are really easy when we are dating and having fun because we are not responsible for anybody's happiness or sadness. People don't realize that we might have fun in dating however everybody wants to meet someone they can settle down.
In the last two months, I met different guys and told them I am a girl who has a good job, family and friends. I don't expect him to spend every waking minute with me. All I need is one day in a week, we meet either for a movie or coffee or dinner and spend time. The most important thing is to communicate whenever we are free. I would rather stay home and watch Netflix rather than go out and party. Also told them that I don't have any issues if they drink, go out with their guy friends or smoke as long as long it doesn't affect them personally. However the reactions of this was this can't be real. Maybe she is faking it, it can't be real. I am not sad that they choose to let the fear make the decision about knowing me rather than giving a chance. Nobody is perfect in life and it made me realize that people are so scared of falling in love.
I strongly feel that love is the most important thing and difficult to get as this generation is blinded by money, status and society. We all want to settle down with someone who can be our best friend/family/mentor in our life but too scared to take a chance on someone who can be genuinely likes you and wants to be with you.
So this blog is for all those people who are scared that someone will hurt them, I would suggest that take a chance and give the other person chance to know you. Don't let your fear ruin what could be an amazing experience. If it ends up as a bad experience then learn from it rather than letting that stop you from knowing another person.
Since I moved back home, I've been meeting people in search for love. There has been good and bad experiences. The bad ones are learnings, let's not be negative about it.
A lot of single people ask me why should they get into a committed relationship when they can have fun without it and it is too much of an effort to maintain a relationship. I have met people who have been hurt by others and don't want to get hurt. In both the cases, it's the fear of finding someone who you would depend on emotionally, mentally and physically. And there are others who let that fear affect them so much that they ignore when they meet an amazing person. Maybe because they think the person is fake and will hurt them, or scared that they'd fall for them.
I have had experiences where I have been completely honest about what are my expectations from a relationship or the person. However, then realized that it scares people when you are so honest.Most of the relationships or marriage breaks because we aren't honest to each other about our expectations. Things are really easy when we are dating and having fun because we are not responsible for anybody's happiness or sadness. People don't realize that we might have fun in dating however everybody wants to meet someone they can settle down.
In the last two months, I met different guys and told them I am a girl who has a good job, family and friends. I don't expect him to spend every waking minute with me. All I need is one day in a week, we meet either for a movie or coffee or dinner and spend time. The most important thing is to communicate whenever we are free. I would rather stay home and watch Netflix rather than go out and party. Also told them that I don't have any issues if they drink, go out with their guy friends or smoke as long as long it doesn't affect them personally. However the reactions of this was this can't be real. Maybe she is faking it, it can't be real. I am not sad that they choose to let the fear make the decision about knowing me rather than giving a chance. Nobody is perfect in life and it made me realize that people are so scared of falling in love.
I strongly feel that love is the most important thing and difficult to get as this generation is blinded by money, status and society. We all want to settle down with someone who can be our best friend/family/mentor in our life but too scared to take a chance on someone who can be genuinely likes you and wants to be with you.
So this blog is for all those people who are scared that someone will hurt them, I would suggest that take a chance and give the other person chance to know you. Don't let your fear ruin what could be an amazing experience. If it ends up as a bad experience then learn from it rather than letting that stop you from knowing another person.
5 comments:
Beautifully written.
ItsI just an unfortunate side effect of being such a caring and wonderful person that you're a victim of Murphy's law.
Nice...honesty is not appreciated at times by many people...
Would it be fine to take a chance to know more about Shilpa ?
I completely agree give a chance to another person in life bcos every individual hav different mind sets not all are same in this world. Still people want love and affection.
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